After my son Lachlan died, a lot changed within me. The sense of grief overwhelmed, but also other aspects moved me positively towards re-assessing what I believed about love and life.
For a start, I hurt in a way I can best describe in poetry, not explanation……
Speak gently into my heart-wound,
Where my brittleness shows
As a black carbon candle wick.
What was once a source of light and joy
Is now bent over,
Ignite me, Lord.
I prefer the flame’s pain
Let me draw life-oil
From those close to me
Now after years I can see things in a different light. Yes I still grieve, and yet I have confidence that Lachlan’s spirit continues to flourish. You probably recognise the ying yang symbol… Amongst other things it reflects the fact that dark and light are part of the whole. I accept that now.
However I also accept that it is a real struggle (there is no bling in the dark night of the soul).
But what I have found there is peace, a peace of reality and acceptance now.
Dr Darren Weissman says in his book on The Power of Infinite Love and Gratitude – “Symptoms are a gift. Pain is a gift. They are the body’s way of saying that it is time to heal whatever emotions you’ve internalised, denied or disconnected from.”